by design or by deafult?

It's hard to overstate the consequences of living life by making conscious choices rather than following what we "should "do.

It's not obvious that going to college, getting married, getting a job, or having children is the most optimal, fulfilling life path for everyone on earth. There's certainly nothing wrong with doing any of these things, provided you made these choices intentionally rather than outsourcing them to societal norms.

Fulfillment comes when we live life by design, not by default.